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You do, that’s who. And so do I.

Money is so fundamental a tool in our modern society that we literally cannot live without it. We would die of thirst or hunger, or exposure, if we didn’t have at least the minimum amount of money required to trade for the meeting of our basic needs. We need money just to survive…and who wants to just survive?

Knowing this, an objective observer would assume that as a species we would teach our children basic money-making and -management skills. Since money is our form of currency, used worldwide, we as humans must all have basic skills in obtaining, growing and using it wisely … right?

Things could not be further from the truth, as you and I know. The subject of money is, instead, entangled hopelessly within a web of wide-ranging emotions, beliefs, taboos, rituals, denials and accusations. We’ve made a mess out of something that is entirely inert and should have nothing attached to it except for the values we give it.

Can we change this as a society? Perhaps - perhaps not. What we CAN do is to help ourselves individually, and in doing so set examples for our friends, colleagues and children.

We can begin by trying to extricate ourselves from the complex topic of money; to separate ourselves mentally from it and begin to observe our habits, patterns and beliefs with objectivity. We, as observers, can see that although our beliefs don’t affect money itself, they affect how we act around money, thus affecting whether we attract it or send it away; whether we thrive financially or suffer.

We all have our own unique set of beliefs and practices when it comes to money, based upon our upbringing, the myriad influences of a lifetime and any opinions - skewed or not - we have formed on our own. In separating ourselves to ask what is valid, what is working and, most importantly, what makes sense for us today, we can take the first step to a brighter, more abundant financial future. Here is some food for thought to help you begin.

• Ask yourself, ‘What do I believe about money?’ You may want to start a list, and you’ll notice that this list will get longer as you go about your daily life and realize how many beliefs and thoughts pop up - you may just surprise yourself. Armed with this knowledge, you can then begin to ask yourself;
• ‘Is that true?’ With each belief, for instance that rich people are corrupt, see if you cannot find one - or many - ways in which you have personally witnessed it NOT being true. If you’d like to follow the brilliant and simple work of Byron Katie, another question to ask would be ‘Who would I be without that thought?’ 
• When you catch yourself hearing a message or belief about money in your head, ask: ‘Whose voice said that?’ This small step can be very revealing, as we discover that what we thought was our own voice is actually - often - that of our mother or father, or another influential person in our early lives.
• Importantly, when we discover beliefs we have about money, it is crucial to decide if this belief serves us NOW. Given where you want to go in your life, does this belief help take you there, or does it lead you astray, blind you to possibilities or perhaps limit you from believing you can even get there?…If the thought doesn’t serve you, discard it, and if possible, replace it with something that does. Repeat your new belief - even if it seems somewhat foreign to you - as often as needed until it feels like a part of you. Using the example above, you could replace the thought ‘rich people are corrupt’ with ‘Magnificent wealth is possible for all of us, and I am going to do wonderful things with my abundance,’ or ‘Millions of people are doing wonderful things with money, and I can, too.’
• Now that you have begun exploring  -and hopefully purging - your limiting beliefs around money, you can begin to learn new ones. Be open to learning from any source which presents itself; a well-off potential mentor you know but had never thought of in that way; your local library; cd and tape sets from successful people; personal development websites and blogs…the list is limited only by your own ingenuity.
• Now for the very personal work of defining your own financial future. An abbreviated outline of this task goes something like this (see our E-Courses for more on this): Ask yourself the key question: What do I want my future to look like? … This, of course, is a big question. If you have never really sat down to define your ideal future, this may initiate a work in progress. That’s OK. It is the beginning of your new life - the way YOU design it. Do not allow what you think is possible to limit you, because you cannot really know what is possible in the larger picture. Simply state what you WANT. As you work to define your ideal future, and to listen to your own voice, hunches about what to do will come to you…you can then take inspired action such as starting a new business, taking some courses or other tasks which just seem ‘right’.

These few ideas may seem overly simple, but they are NOT easy. Self-discovery is one of the most difficult, and yet most rewarding, pursuits available to us as human beings. Few of us explore our true potential, and even just in the field of finances, there is much you can do to learn, grow and prosper. Enjoy!

Many times when we are striving to create ‘better’ lives, we forget that we already have it all.

We are not separate from the magic and wonder and abundance of the Universe - we are just disconnected from it in certain facets of our lives. We compartmentalize ourselves, and in so doing we cut ourselves off from the flow and magic of life. It’s not that the Universe is not delivering - it’s that we are not noticing and receiving!

There was a time when hearing this would have annoyed me…I would NOT acknowledge or believe that I was the one pinching off my goodness. Having grown and expanded since then (with so much more to go!), I now see the inarguable truth in this - we are each letting in only so much, and our outer lives correspond exactly to the flow we are allowing.

Example:

The other night, my honey and I were out watching planes; an activity we enjoy as we are both pilots and watching jets come and go lets us feel the magic of traveling. At any rate, we were out walking in the industrial area which surrounds our international airport, and expressing immense gratitude for the fact that we did not have to work in any of the cubicles in the dusty old buildings or in the warehouses we were passing…we are so grateful for the life we’ve worked to create, and with our expression of gratitude we invite more wonder, happiness and joy.

At one point, the sun was setting, just slipping below the clouds. We stopped mid-walk to watch it, marveling at how quickly it sinks and being reminded at how fast time passes. Right there, we re-vowed to try and enjoy each moment. As we were standing there on the sidewalk, the last working stragglers from the day were getting in their cars and trucks from various offices and warehouses; some of them looked at us as if to say ‘What are YOU lookin’ at?’ What we were looking at  was this spectacular sunset right behind them; you would think that seeing us both looking up into the sky with grateful smiles on our faces would at least prompt them to turn around and see for themselves…but no! Not one person did this! They all walked to their cars in various stages of grumpiness and resignedness (I’m making assumptions but a) I’ve been there and b) it was fairly obvious), missing the glory and beauty right above their heads. It’s choking me up just writing this, how human beings can miss such exquisiteness by being trapped in their own heads, dealing instead with spiralling thoughts about how hopeless things are, or even more mundane, thoughts about what’s for dinner.

The bottom line is, there is abundance, wonder and magic ALL AROUND US, from the tiniest wave of energy to the most complex functions of human bodies, the cosmos and our beautiful spinning planet which supports us all in myriad ways.

P.S. If you want a reminder, try some of the following resources:

• The Case for a Creator
• What the Bleep do We Know?
• Conversations With God
• The Intention Experiment
• Wayne Dyer’s Inspiration: Your Ultimate Calling

Photo credit: ccjones
 

Here is a question for you: Do you think that being a ‘good’ person somehow precludes financial abundance?

While your immediate answer may be no, I invite you to explore the question in a round-about way by considering how you feel about others and the prosperity they may attract:

• Think about someone who is well-known for charitable acts and human kindness, such as Mother Theresa or perhaps the Dalai Lama. They live or lived lives of simplicity, eschewing luxurious possessions and preferring instead to dedicate their time to communion with God and helping their fellow human beings.
• Consider people who spread messages of abundance and unity, such as Deepak Chopra, Wayne Dyer and Gary Zukav. These gentlemen all believe in our spiritual connection to each other and to our higher source, and devote their time to sharing this with the world, in the hopes of making it a better, more peaceful place for each of us.
• Look at industry leaders who are scions of wealth such as Bill Gates, Ted Rogers and others. Whether or not they contribute to charitable causes, they enjoy extreme abundance financially, and can physically have anything they desire.

Now, as you read through that short list, do you have any judgements about who is or is not a ‘good’ person? Would it be OK if Mother Theresa lived in a mansion and drove around in a $200,000 car? What about Deepak Chopra or Wayne Dyer? Do you feel that they should all enjoy (and deserve) abundance, or that somehow any money they receive should be given away toward the ‘greater good?’ Where did these thoughts come from, and are they really valid?

Somehow many of us have it in our heads that we can either live a monk-like existence, devoting our lives to others or to God or to contemplating spiritual truths…OR we can live lives rich with financial abundance and enjoy all the physical luxuries available. Why, I ask, do we perpetuate the belief that goodness, or spirituality, and massive, magnificent wealth are mutually exclusive? Why do we think that keeping it is selfish and spiritually bankrupt?…

Not everyone thinks this way, of course, but if this strikes a chord within you, then it may be worth exploring further. By examining the thoughts and beliefs which bubble up when looking at the lives and actions of others, we can see more clearly what conflicts may exist between our own intentions and the inner beliefs we hold.

For instance, if we feel we are basically good people, and we are trying to create massive abundance for ourselves, is it possible we are holding ourselves back - albeit unconsciously - because we feel any money we attract should not be kept? Maybe we have a desire for a fantastic sports car, and all the while we think we are sending out the vibration of loving the car, yet we are undermining it with a deep-seated and hidden belief that it is somehow rude, pretentious or even downright wrong to ’show off’ our money or possessions.

As usual, this is just food for thought. The conflicting beliefs which limit us are often hidden - even from us - maybe especially from us! It’s often easier to see what someone else’s beliefs are by the results they are creating in their lives than to notice your own. Have you ever even asked yourself ‘What are the results I have in my life at the moment, and what do my circumstances say about my beliefs?’ It’s a great question, and you can ask it any time to get a reading on how you’re doing, vs. how you’d like to be doing. Honesty is always the fastest track to change.

Here are great book suggestions to explore this question further in your own life:

Why You’re Dumb, Sick & Broke, and How to Get Smart, Healthy & Rich by Randy Gage

Zero Limits: The Secret Hawaiian System for Wealth, Health, Peace and More by Joe Vitale and Ihaleakala Hew, Ph.D Len

Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker

…And, for further help with aligning your thoughts, try these:

Quantum Creations with James Arthur Ray

Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki

Some other ideas to help you align your thoughts with the abundance you desire include creating affirmations for yourself which you repeat daily until the ybecome a prt of you, and keeping pictures of things and experiences you would love to have in places where you can see them - where they will ’sink in’ and become a part of what your mind accepts is possible - for you!

You are a wonderful, good person and you deserve to experience massive abundance!

Part of growing up and standing on one’s own two feet lies in feeling a sense of responsibility; for one’s choices, circumstances, and life in general. Pulling up the bootstraps and saying ‘OK, no matter what has gone before, my life’s results are up to me,’ is just part of being a fully functioning adult.

Moving further along and discovering the personal development path, many take the concept of self-resonsibility even deeper. We learn that our thoughts, beliefs and attitudes create our circumstances, and we begin to explore the ways in which we actually affect the world around us. Learning, acknowledging and even changing the way we affect things and people around us is an important step, but the question for today is: is it possible to feel TOO much responsibility?

As food for thought, I offer a personal example which brought me to this question (and my own answer) today while I was contemplating it. My parents, who love each other very much, were fighting…it wasn’t an all-out fight but a war of no words and cold shoulders, and it made me extremely uncomfortable. After talking with both of them and wishing them luck, I was left wondering why a rift between two other people would leave me feeling so uncomfortable and sad. I often find myself deeply affected by conflict, and I am definitely in the habit of trying to ’solve’ things for people when I see they are unhappy or not getting along. As I think back, I see that this has been a pattern in my life…whenever there is conflict, whether I personally am in the middle of it or not, I feel uncomfortable and I try and ‘make it better.’

As I have grown, I have developed the habit of asking myself how I have contributed to any conflict I am involved in; what have I been doing that has caused this, or attracted it to me?  This sense of responsibility has moved me far into the life of my dreams, as it enabled me to sit in the driver’s seat of my own life. I think it is generally a good trait, and I have been proud of myself and frustrated when others lack it.

Getting back to the question…for some reason I made a new decision today to leave my parents to their tiff and just ‘never mind.’ It’s their business, I thought, and they are adults making their own choices. BINGO! Those two phrases hit me like lightning, with the realization that I had not been giving people - or myself - these two acknowledgements. Follow me through this point, because it’s really important and I felt a huge sense of growth and freedom when I internalized this insight today:

1) It’s their business:  What a relief! I somehow feel responsible even when people I care about are experiencing conflict. I have spent a lot of time learning that what other people think of me is none of my business, but somehow never applied the lesson the other side of the coin. It’s not that I’m butting in to others’ lives when I try to soothe feelings, but at the same time, I feel a remarkable sense of giddiness in realizing it’s really none of my business.

2) They are adults and they’re making their own choices: This is a bit of an expansion on point number one. My feelings of discomfort have come from judging situations as wrong: I had never thought of this before. In being so concerned, I was almost babying my parents and not allowing them to make their own choices. They want to fight? Let them fight! It’s OK. Again, I feel a great sense of relief.

This is a valuable insight for me, and will affect my life in profound ways. Some of you may already know this, but for those who don’t, I hope my sharing will provoke a little introspection. It’s been quite liberating, and anyone who wants to create and follow their own path in life definitely needs to feel liberated!

Today I passed a remnant of a past life; a green folder was in my kitchen and in it sat bills stacked neatly with dates of every bill I got, this folder held bills from - WAIT FOR IT - 2004! So in 2004 my life and my bills were in order, 2004 was also the year my son was born and I attribute it to my life going to hell shortly thereafter but back to my green folder. In this folder I had neatly labeled each bill when it was due and each creditor had its very own section, all checks that I wrote to each creditor was also filed along with the folder- I even filed my paychecks of course there was a misc section for any bills that just popped up as we call it, so this morning as I passed this green folder with bills, paychecks from 2004 the thought occurred to me that my mailbox was now currently overflowing, I had no clue when bills were due and paid them barely on recollection, If a creditor said I owed x amount, I’d have to go by their word as I had no files or bills to prove anything as a matter a fact most of my life had been going in this direction. My employees would tell me they made x amount and I’d make payments based on their calculations - as a matter of fact you could say I AM IGNORING MY LIFE. So today when I passed this green folder I decided today might be a good day to start organizing my bills, I had basically lived on the edge for 4 yrs not even sure if I was paying my bills on time and frankly not really caring either as long as I wasn’t 30 days late. Now that I think back, up until 2004 I had some of my most prosperous years and part of that probably had to do with the things that I did including having some organization to my life and my finances.

With the state of the Economy and us basically going into a recession it gets harder to think positive thoughts about finances and everything revolving money issues. I have some very good friends of mine who are now losing their homes in foreclosure, and one of the things I hear often is that they ignore phone calls and bills and the creditors trying to contact them to work things out…they feel if they just ignore things it will get better but instead they wake up and there is a sheriff at the door taking their house. My response to alot of things is just NOT TO DEAL with it, but not dealing with things and ignoring them does not help your life, actually it makes it worse when you realize if you had just answered a creditors phone call or told them the problem you could have been helped.

IF YOU ARE CURRENTLY IN A SITUATION - WHETHER LOSING YOUR HOME OR YOU OWE DEBTS AND YOU CANNOT PAY - STOP IGNORING YOUR LIFE, START ANSWERING YOUR PHONE CALLS, START TELLING THE CREDITORS YOU HAVE A PROBLEM AND NEED HELP BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY STOP IGNORING YOUR LIFE!!

As many of our original fans have seen, Ophelia and I have been ‘away’ from this blog and site for quite some time. I see Ophelia has been posting lately, and we have decided to come back and revive our beautiful Breathing Prosperity. We both cherish it far too much to let it go.

Thanks so much to everyone who has already written to say hi, and that you have been waiting for us to come back. Who knew? We’ve each been off doing our own thing, and working/playing in our own separate arenas. I have had a wonderful time at Follow Your Path and other blogs and sites I own and contribute to, and Ophelia has her own set as well. As Ophelia intimates in one of her April posts, however, nothing is ever dead until you actually kill it, and I’m sure there must be myriad reasons we were never able to fully let this one go…we love it too much, and it has meaning not only for us, but for many previous readers as well.

For everyone, welcome back! We are delighted you are still here with us, and we look forward to interacting with you once again. For those new to us, please feel free to read our archived posts, as we have written much from our hearts and the lessons we have learned can apply to anyone on the path to prosperity, open-mindedness and happiness and success in life overall.

The path away from and back to Breathing Prosperity has not been an easy road, but it has - as always - been interesting, and a deep and powerful learning experience. Please bear with us as we play with the theme here, and update and re-vamp the site somewhat.

Success and prosperity to you, now and always.

Love,

Shauna

Today I was reading a book Get Real and Get Rich and the author of the book Farrah Gray says his grandmother always told him to ask a question- Why not me? So I’m asking myself the question today- Why not me? It’s actually a really great question.. because the more I ask the question the more the answer that keeps coming back is NO REASON- There is no reason it can’t be me!
The book is about conquering the 7 lies keeping you from getting rich. I believe some of the lies were
The born rich lie, the winning the lottery lie, the famous lie but don’t quote me on the lies but this book caused me to think- WHY NOT ME?
If people are on the internet making $1 million a month- then why not me? This guy became a Millionaire at 14- GET THAT 14! and again you ask the question - WHY NOT ME?? He is now a 22 yr old millionaire.
You may have noticed that the blog now has a new design and if you scroll down to the bottom you will see it was made by yours truly- You can check out some of my designs at my own website- Yes that’s right there is an Ophelia Nicholson.com so there is a theme competition going on at lunarpages and I decided to enter. So far I’ve entered Missing Kids which is a missing kids theme that updates automatically from National Center for Missing and Exploited teens, I also entered Creation and then I thought about entering my ipod creation that plays mp3’s yes a wordpress theme has a built in mp3 player- but then the question kept coming up why would I ever win- till I asked well why not me- I don’t see any reason why I can’t win, I do great original designs, why shouldn’t someone else win- WHY NOT ME? So today the question is Why not you? There is no reason why it can’t be you too!

This morning I kept asking the Universe, to show me a sign that what I was doing was the right course of action then the thought accorded to me if it was a bad course of action I wouldn’t be asking for a sign now would I - I’d have just written it off as a bad course of action and moved on.. Why do we sit around waiting for signs? Could it be that signs means we don’t have to make the decision ourselves and we can just blame the Universe for it’s bad signs or say well we didn’t really make the decision on our own- Had I not saw that sign, I would have made a better decision..
What sign are you waiting for today?

Alot of people will think I’m crazy for making this post- who has ever heard of a blog deserted for almost a year and then started up again…that never happens right! I think that a lot of times we fall off the horse be it, our exercise goals, our financial goals, our spiritual goals but how often do we fall off the horse and actually have the courage to get back on.
As you may have noticed we haven’t updated the blog in months or even been a part of the community for quite a while, part being the fact that your goals do change and shift into different directions and part being that sometimes your original goal may not be what you currently need in your life- It’s like having a goal of losing 20 pounds in march and you carry that goal for 1 month till you realize that maybe losing weight should not have been your aim but you should have made the strive to tone your body and that may not mean a 20 pound weight loss or it maybe having a goal to get rich and then realizing that you first need to learn financial money management and how to invest.

Moving away from your goals and then coming back

A lot of times we move away from our goals and we face a fear with coming back because we all hate to be seen as failures, I have thought a lot about coming back and updating the blog consistently but the fact that I had fallen off a horse (the horse in the instance happens to have been my spiritual growth), Left a huge sense of failure in my mind and sometimes when you look at failed project you feel its easier to keep walking away as opposed to giving it another shot. My son now 3 Nicholas, I haven’t spoken to his dad in more than two years, I remember at one point he disappeared for 6 months and when he finally made a phone call he said that the more time that passed the more you feel that you should just keep going in that direction and not try to go back and fix any old mistakes or work on any old goals that you may have given up on.
It’s even easy to give up when you feel you are continually putting in effort and seeing no results, that can be discouraging to keep going to the gym and after months you look the same or keep writing a blog and feel you are not changing anyone’s life ESPECIALLY YOUR OWN

Growth isn’t straight up, Growing doesn’t happen in a straight line
What did I learn from falling off the horse- I learned that despite what I think I am human, I do make mistakes, I do leave things unfinished but I also noticed that my spiritual growth and my practice and belief in law of attraction slowed or halted once my writing stopped. Growth doesn’t happen in a straight line, it doesn’t matter what it is, it could be losing weight, spiritual growth, a tree or a child growing, it never just happens in a straight line, sometimes you have a plateau, a rest period where none or little growth occurs and then like all things you have a growth period where everything grows at endless speeds.

Where am I now?
It maybe hard to believe but this post has been almost a year in the making, I would come and write a post, feel like a failure and stop so this time around I’d like to learn more about me- more about goals that I had high expectations for that got killed before they had time to grow.

My lesson for today to myself
Just because something shows no growth or movement doesn’t mean that it’s dead! What goals are you afraid to face and try again? Is it a blog, your health, a hobby, excerise -

Here is the question for myself today
Who am I afraid to face by coming back and writing the blog- Is it myself, the people who listened as we wrote- Who are you afraid to face by picking up goals that you had long forgotten about.

My thought for today
I am always making the best decision in that moment.

Ophelia